If you have EVER had self-esteem problems of any kind, you might want to read this woman's blog. She lost her husband about 6 months before Greg died, and I somehow found her blog on-line (of course, where ELSE would I have found it?). She has been very open about sharing her highs AND lows.
Anyway, even if you haven't lost a spouse, but occasionally read my blog, give her current post a try.
Thanks.
Janine's blog