tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post4185988208471661890..comments2023-10-24T07:58:32.880-05:00Comments on aka Nancy Drew: Confessions - Part Onejessicahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02598544917785126150noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-64339133378588396412009-04-03T15:34:00.000-05:002009-04-03T15:34:00.000-05:00Although my ex was not an alcoholic, I, too, cover...Although my ex was not an alcoholic, I, too, covered for his shortcomings. I made up stories to cover for his lack of responsibility and failure to follow through on promises and contracts. I understand your blogging, and the relief you can feel after the "cat is out of the bag". I remembered initially being so embarrassed when someone outside my close circle realized how he really was.....but that was followed with relief..that i no longer had hide it and compensate for it.JohBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089556945740226361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-4504766268698568212009-03-17T13:51:00.000-05:002009-03-17T13:51:00.000-05:00I always feel better after writing in my blog... e...I always feel better after writing in my blog... even if I decide to delete the posts later... which I have done. I still felt better. I have known alcoholics before. That is pretty tough. Even though I know people meant it well, I used to hate them saying I was strong too when my husband died.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-67225563182770820332009-03-16T21:44:00.000-05:002009-03-16T21:44:00.000-05:00You asked how I found your blog. You are listed o...You asked how I found your blog. You are listed on the blog list on The Retirement Chronicles and I must say it was the name of your blog that caught my attention first. I spent a good while reading your past posts too and enjoy your candor and writing style. I. too, have always found writing to be therapeutic - a way to wrap my head around whatever life is dealing. I look forward to the next part of your story.Ramblin Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10370462257976522563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-11670158905403468222009-03-16T15:15:00.000-05:002009-03-16T15:15:00.000-05:00Janine - the first comment/reply was directed to m...Janine - the first comment/reply was directed to my cousin's comment. But as to yours (my sister in this no-choice-of-ours situation): I did grieve. The shock, the unexpected death, was beyond what I would ever have expected to go thru in my lifetime. But then in the fall, my mood, my attitude picked up. I was getting "my self" back, sort of the pre-Greg me (okay - a LOT older now...) And I wanted to write about this, yet I don't want to muddy the poor man's life in so many eyes. I do know that none of his family (one brother, many cousins) do not know of this blog. So I feel like I can pour my heart out and share with the friends I have made thru blogging. And they will understand, I believe.<BR/><BR/>And you - you have been thru so many more trials than I have, and I know how dearly and truly you miss Jim. I feel bad that my grieving is not as deep as yours, but I know that now you can understand why that is.jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02598544917785126150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-70586023604717539882009-03-16T15:03:00.000-05:002009-03-16T15:03:00.000-05:00Yeah, I went to a few Al-Anon meetings. I felt lik...Yeah, I went to a few Al-Anon meetings. I felt like there was this little "clique" of women, and I never felt welcome. And the only thing I maybe picked up from that program was that things will happen (or NOT happen, as the case may be) whether you worry and fuss about them, or not. The hardest thing to do was to let go - to NOT try to police him. It probably would have killed me, in the long run, if I had tried that. My next installation(s) will kinda give more info in those areas.<BR/><BR/>He was good to me, and on several occasions begged me not to leave him. How do you deal with a plea like that? Many things have contributed to what I am and where I am today. And after he died, I got SO tired of hearing about how strong I was (because I did NOT feel that strong) - but now I really, truly believe that I <B>am</B> that strong person.jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02598544917785126150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-27234212120500724692009-03-16T15:01:00.000-05:002009-03-16T15:01:00.000-05:00Thanks for sharing, Jessica ..... I'm so glad that...Thanks for sharing, Jessica ..... I'm so glad that it feels good to you ..... like a load lifted, maybe?<BR/>That's good ..... we have so many other loads to carry that it's always healthy to get rid of some.<BR/>This is only the beginning of your story, but I can see that your comment about "letting go easier" makes sense.<BR/>Thanks again, for opening up your heart to us.Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3662336582303073160.post-11803491218697795162009-03-16T14:44:00.000-05:002009-03-16T14:44:00.000-05:00Unfortunately, because of the distance, I never re...Unfortunately, because of the distance, I never remember meeting Greg but once, for a few minutes. I am so sorry to hear that you had all of this burden without being able to share it with anyone at the time. Were you able to go to any Al-Anon meetings or anything for support at the time in Tx.?<BR/>I would probably not have, as I find the 12-step program kind of lame if you aren't real religious, but other women have told me it served as a rock for them.<BR/>I am glad you are able to talk about it now, though, because talking and sharing burdens makes it easier to provide closure to what was yesterday.The Retired Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02466803019073952351noreply@blogger.com